Other Types of Parenting Styles
Baumrind created 4 distinct Parenting styles but there is another. But there are other types of Parenting styles and I think you should know about them. One among them is called the drama queen parenting style.
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Generally, there are four distinct recognized parenting styles or strategies use in child upbringing. But Moms are inventing new parenting strategies peculiar to their environment and it is working for them.
According to Bright Horizons Education Team on “Parenting strategies”;
One of the interesting things about being a parent is that there is great variation in how we raise our children. At the same time, there are many commonalities from one parent to another. In fact, there is enough similarity that researchers have tried to group parents into four common parenting styles.
I have read so much about parenting styles. It has always been the 3 or 4 most popular styles in parenting. Of all these styles Mom, used few or the combination of all to raise her kids. But there is another one; she invented a fifth parental style and that was what worked for her.
Each of these Parenting styles has variations in at least four areas: discipline style, communication, nurturance, and expectations. Mom’s fourth parenting style indirectly appeals to the conscience and at the same time instills fear in the kids’ minds.
I said so because Mom used the tool on us and she parented perfectly. She was always seeing the desired result whenever she employed the fifth parenting style.
What is Parenting Style?
“Your parenting style refers to the combination of strategies that you use to raise your children”. BHET
Other Types of Parenting Styles
Diane Baumrind has in her work in the 1960s created one commonly-referenced categorization of parenting styles. The four Baumrind parenting styles have distinct names and characteristics:
- Authoritarian or Disciplinarian
- Permissive or Indulgent
- Uninvolved
- Authoritative
There are opinions that these Baumrind parenting styles are United States-centric and it is not clear how well these styles describe parents cross-culturally. This may not be true. Whichever way we look at these 4 parenting styles cross-culturally, they are the same everywhere. For instance, the meaning of ‘uninvolved’ in the United States is the same in Asian and African countries.
Baumrind’s 4 Types of Parenting Styles
1. Authoritarian Parenting
This type of parenting style is linked to parents who are ‘the Margaret Thatchers’ in parenting their children. When you have authoritarian parents, if they say no noise, they mean dead silence. Authoritarian parents are often thought of as disciplinarians.
- They use a strict discipline style with little negotiation possible. Punishment is also always their tool.
- Communication is mostly one way: from parent to child. Rules may be explained but can’t be questioned.
- Parents with this style are typically less nurturing, less dotting, and emotional.
2. Permissive Parenting
Another word for this parenting style is the Indulgent parenting style. This type of parenting style mostly lets their children do what they want, and offers limited guidance or direction. The parents are more like friends to their children than parents.
In this type of parenting, the discipline style is the opposite of the Authoritarian parenting style. It has limited or no rules and the communication is open. The children are left to decide for themselves and figure out their problems on their own.
3. Uninvolved Parenting
This uninvolved parenting style is somehow closer to the Perssimisive parenting style. This is actually the reason why some experts argue that there are only 3 major types of parenting styles.
Uninvolved parents give children a lot of freedom and generally stay out of their way. Some parents may make a conscious decision to parent in this way, while others are less interested in parenting or unsure of what to do.
4. Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parenting is a parenting style characterized by high responsiveness and high demands. Authoritative parents are responsive to the child’s emotional needs while having high standards.
This style of parenting is thought to be the most beneficial to children. This is because children with parents who demonstrate an Authoritative parenting style tend to be self-disciplined and think for themselves.
Other Types of Parenting Styles
5. Drama-Queen Parenting Style
This is the fifth parenting style used by many Moms in a combination of other styles. My parent used this style often. It was used in place of punishment. It was used in place rebuking and dialoguing.
One spectacular thing this parenting style did in our lives was that it appealed to our conscience and instilled fear in us. This style is not a set of rules but it spoke louder than sets of rules.
The appropriate name for this parenting style should have been “Engaging the conscience parenting style. The above name came about due to the fact that parents who adopt this style put up a lot of dramas.
But someone may ask and say; why using Queen and leaving the King out? The King is left out in this parenting style because it is a strategic use often by mothers.
Other Types of Parenting Styles
This style of parenting corrected some of the nasty behaviors which we put up while growing up. Mom didn’t approve of heavy facial makeup, she had never taught us about moderation in facial makeup, even if she did, we would not listen. She preferred to put up her drama each time we had heavy makeup on our faces. Mom would borrow our makeup kits and designed her faces with red and blue paint.
Mom had trailed my brother to a gambling corner. She jumped up three times and slumped. She refused to open her eyes for two days. My brother and the rest of us were scared to the marrow. Finally, Mom had our brother and the rest of us sign a written agreement in her dairy that we would never make a pass near a gambling corner let alone going nearer. That was how we convinced Mom to open her eyes. My brother became a living Saint overnight.
I didn’t tell you how the Drama queen parenting style stopped my siblings and me from fighting one another. We were exchanging blows in a fight one day, it was so fierce that Mom couldn’t separate us. When she couldn’t calm us using mere words, she applied the strategy.
Mom just brought out his phone and began to call the Coffin maker in the other street. There was dead silence in the house. No one knew why she was inviting the Coffin maker into the house. She knew nothing scared us like the sight of a Coffin and now she was inviting the maker in the house.
Features Of Drama Queen Parenting
- It employs the use of tricks.
- It appeals to the conscience of the children
- It sometimes instills fear in a child’s life and makes that child act responsibly in the future.
- It yields instant desired results but most times, it left the child confused.
- This parenting style leaves indelible memories.
Other Types of Parenting Styles (Summary)
I can tell boldly tell anyone that this type of parenting style is the best among the others. I have become a mother with parenting roles. I have also adopted the Drama-Queen parenting style but in addition to other styles.
